HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY

Posted on February 13, 2007 by Girl Friday

A VALENTINE FOR YOU, GIRL FRIDAY STYLE!

 

Bad Valentine

 

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Flirting, A How to Guide

Posted on February 7, 2007 by Girl Friday

I realize that I haven’t done a Girl Friday How To in quite some time. I’ve been mulling this topic over for a while…

So, you’re not quite sure yet what it means to flirt or what it feels like for someone to flirt with you? Well, Helen Rowland said, “Flirting is the gentle art of making a man feel pleased with himself.” I think this applies to men and women, gay or straight. The extra attention you give to someone special makes you blush and the compliments you try to brush off make your stomach flip-flop? Yeah, that’s flirting.

We’ve all been there. We’ve all done that. Saw a cutie and didn’t know what to do next. Maybe you two started talking and you got tongue-tied. Maybe you’ve been chatting for a while with your crush and it’s like pulling teeth. Don’t you wish we were all on the same page? Could I drop any more clichés? Probably. Let’s find out! Here are some Dos and Don’ts that I came up with. If you think I left any out, I’d love to hear what you have to say!

Do

  1. Accept compliments and pay them back. It’s not about being too cocky or overly modest—it’s about acknowledging how you’re seen through someone else’s eyes.
  2. Get personal. Move past the superficial topics like the weather as soon as possible. If you share hobbies,  flirting will become secondary to your genuine interest.
  3. Say suggestive things. Get the imagination working. Ever notice how rephrasing a statement into a question sounds flirty? Well, did you?
  4. Extend invitations to future conversations. Leave yourself an opportunity to pursue your interest further. Be available. For example, “I take the same train every day. I guess I’ll see you around.”
  5. Have confidence and have fun. If you and your crush aren’t laughing—loosen up! I promise no one ever died from flirting.

Don’t

  1. Reject compliments and don’t be too self-deprecating. This makes it harder for any interested party to get to know you and is ultimately very discouraging.
  2. Avoid getting engaged in real conversations with jokes or one-word answers. Ask open-ended questions and respond to your crush in a similar manner.
  3. Throw out mood killers like your ailments, baggage, and never, ever talk about previous relationships while in the flirting stages. Don’t fawn over an ex or describe how embittered you became after the break-up. It’s not healthy to dwell, and it sends the wrong signal to someone that you like or likes you.
  4. Say you have to go to bed, leave, go to work, etc., without saying, “I hate to do this, but I have to go! I loved talking with you. I hope to again tomorrow!”
  5. Set up roadblocks. Trust that you are a lovely person. If you are open to the possibility of meeting someone new, you must let go and let the chips fall where they may.

Now go forth and be your charming self!

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The Great Disapppearing Act of ’07

Posted on January 24, 2007 by Girl Friday

I do apologize for my ridiculously long absence from this diary. It has been most cruel of me to abandon it in favor of other things like life, work, and um…that’s about it. I will summarize in the third person, because I really need some distance, what I’ve been up to for the past month or so:

Girl Friday went home for the holidays and spent some much needed time with her family. Presents were exchanged and opened, and she must have not been too naughty this year! She got to see Lucky 10-Key, English Diva, and Notorious M.A.G. (They’re all doing fabulous, by the way!) Girl Friday got sick. It totally sucked. One of these years she swears she’s going to do something really cool for New Year’s Eve. Too bad her immune system requires 20-30 days off throughout the year, and always during critical celebrations. (She’s still sorry that The BF had to bake his own cake for his birthday this year!) Work has been a trying time for Girl Friday. She celebrated her one year anniversary with the University on January 17th. She will deny that she’s hit another wall or fallen into yet another trough on her road to recovery from her quarter-life crisis. Vehemently. So don’t even try it!

As for making goals, promises, or any sort of resolutions for 2007, I am also quite behind. I would have failed in the three major areas already: diet, exercise, and getting organized. Oops. So since the Gilmore Girls postponed Christmas, maybe Girl Friday can postpone New Year’s? Who’s on board? I say let’s skip the night of debauchery and the ensuing hangover. I’m great at fabricating silly little stories, so I’ll just pretend that I rang in the New Year in Iceland and brought you all with me.

On to the resolutions:

1. If I’m going to wear a silver dress for The Pink Fairy’s wedding this summer, I should probably lay off the junk food. I’m not a fan of an ascetic lifestyle, so maybe I should just try to eat fruits and vegetables first so I won’t be so hungry that I consume three rice krispy treats at lunch.

2. If life was like the Matrix I could be plugged in all the time and exercise wouldn’t seem like such a bore. I don’t think there’s any way around this one. I guess I actually have to stop using my treadmill as a clothes rack, then? Well, fine. Silver is reflective and it’s not very slimming, so I’ll get my butt moving…tomorrow.

3. My office is going to pay for two hours with an organizational expert to work with me in my cubicle (which is really not a cube, but more like triangle). I hope that with some guidance I’ll be able to apply what I learn at work to my life at home. I have been trying to go through junk mail one pile at a time, and Queen of Anagrams has been most delightful in distracting me on the phone. After all my stuff finds a home I think everything else will be a cinch. The biggest factor keeping me from my diary is that I can’t focus on anything while little messes stare me in the face.

Hamingjusamur Nýár!

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